This is one of those things that on a macro level seems like it has to be obvious to me, but its interesting how often I talk to people that on a micro level can’t seem to sort it out.
(Go ahead and play that Drizzy Crew Love at the bottom while you read this)
One of my favorite toasts that I ever gave (it was at my crews annual big Christmas dinner) was that if you ever want to see yourself the way that the world sees you, all you need to do is take a look at your friends and the people that surround you, and you get a pretty good picture of how you fit into this thing.
So, this rule, can be used for a lot of things. Surround yourself with successful people. Surround yourself with nice people. Surround yourself with fit people. Surround yourself with loving people. Surround yourself with smart people. Take time to look at your crew.
I was lucky enough to go to this event at UCLA the other day and one of the speakers had paraphrased a Ralph Waldo Emerson quote that has literally being playing over and over again in my mind since Friday night, here is the quote:
“To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”
Anyone who knows me, or has intereacted with me at some point and we’ve done something where a “thank you” is normally said, my reply, more times than not, is always, “you’re welcome, but I’m just here to help.”
I used to say that just being funny, because I’m kind of a dick and a lot of time there was a double entendre thing working, but I thought about it a long time ago, and really, I believe that shit. Without getting into religion and spirituality and all the things about how you feel about that kind of stuff, at the end of the day, I feel good just knowing that I helped someone out that day. I’m not one of those people who is big on taking credit for shit and needed to be appreciated for doing something, it just makes me happy to know that even if its helping someone with loading something into a car, or having a percentage of my checks stashed away for giving away to social issues or texting a friend and letting them vent to be about something going on…. all things, big or small, I think, if we do them in the way that the idea is to make life easier for our fellow men and women, we are doing something good.
Thats how I like to live. I try not to get upset at anything external and I just try and be happy, and do my small part in making other people happy. If we all did that, I think we would be aight. The goal is to get us all there. And we will.
Start with yourself and your crew. Look around, evaluate it, cut the fat. At the end of the day, its a lot easier to pull yourself up with no dead weight. Filter the deadweight out. Or find away to push it to the side and only deal with it when you have to.